Chronicles of a Single Woman (CSW) - A Ri Media Production

Confessions Radio Show

2009-06-08T20:36:00.000-07:00

You want to confess about something … need some advice! Well, you can get what you need on the Confession radio show! Complete our online form and we will anonymously discuss your comment. We can help you resolve issues resolving your confession … or if you just want to get something off your chest, we are all ears! It’s okay to let it OUT!! Beware, Confessions radio is raw & uncut … ADULTS only! Click here to make your confession!

What's Your Status?

2009-06-08T15:11:00.000-07:00

Ladies what's your status in an array of situations ... are you just a (bleep) or a (bleep)? Why do you think you are more than what you are ... or are you really...?

What’s your status as a person … as a woman: education, employment, self-esteem, romantic relationships, friendships and spirituality/religion?

Are you where you should be or are you faking yourself out? What’s your status?

SHOW HIGHLIGHT :: Caribgem & I discussed the many misconceptions on a woman’s status in media & in reality: education, employment, self-esteem, romantic relationships, friendships & spirituality/religion. Media almost always portray women as being personal property, dominated by men, governed by emotions, overly emotional, dependent, less intelligent than men and weak … we got to the bottom of this.

Have You Ever Felt Sexually Cheap?

2009-05-15T13:37:00.000-07:00

Have you ever felt sexually cheap?

Definitions:

Definition of sex – Root word of sexually is sex. (www.dictionary.com)

the character of being female or male
the instinct or attraction drawing one sex toward another, or its manifestation in life and conduct

Definition of cheap – www.dictionary.com

costing very little; relatively low in price; inexpensive
costing little labor or trouble
charging low prices
of little account; of small value

My definitions of “sexually cheap”-

giving the essence of your gender without the recipient putting forth effort equal to god given, higher power given, or universe given value
giving the essence of your gender without the recipient showing their value of you

Now, I ask again … have you ever felt sexually cheap? Do you remember who made you feel this way? Do you remember the encounter? Did you talk to the person that did this to you? Did you face them? What was the resolution? Did you end up feeling this way again?

Now that you have answered all those questions, how do you feel??? What are you thinking now? Are you thinking “those damn men … those damn boys … those damn womanizers that want to f#&% every woman in the world!”… “F” them right?????

Wrong … “F” you! Yup I said it … damn you Ms. Lady! Yes, you the woman that feels sexually cheap. You can’t blame anyone for making you feel sexually cheap BUT … you!

Many young girls don’t know this but adult women …. you know … you know it doesn’t feel right but you do it anyway. You know that the guy or guys you are dealing with do not want you. The guy typically only wants you for a lay … just want to be able to say he f’ed you. You think you can f#&% him into liking you … You think you can f#&% him to convince him to spend more time with you.

Let me ask you this though …. what effort is he showing you that he is worth being around? How is he showing you that he is even worthy of your essence? Is he showing you that he even values you? Look beyond his material … educational … publicly meritable accomplishments. Of course they are important … very important actually … but there is something just as important: How does he SENSUALLY CONNECT to you?

Again, how does he SENSUALLY CONNECT with you … versus sexually connect with you?

Definition of sensual – (www.dictionary.com)

to experience through the senses
of or pertaining to the senses or physical sensation

So many people want to misconstrue the meaning of the act of sexual intercourse as the most vital form of communication. While sexual intercourse is important to me in a harmonious committed relationship, I actually believe “SENSUAL INTERCOURSE” to be the most important.

Definition of intercourse – (www.dictionary.com)

dealings or communication between individuals, groups, countries, etc.
interchange of thoughts, feelings, etc.

My definition of sensual intercourse – (www.dictionary.com)

the communication of thoughts, feelings, intentions, & desires between individuals through the use of a person’s senses

Sensual Intercourse is facilitated via the 6 senses … sight, smell, hearing, taste, feeling … and yes the 6th sense is the mind. Your mind facilitates mental formations through recording and registering the perceptions from your other 5 senses: sight, smell, hearing, taste, and feeling.

Lol … just about everyone is born with a mind … no hidden trickery. Below, I have given some examples on how to use your 6 senses to determine if a guy “sensually connects” with you.

Sight: pay attention to what you “really see” instead of what you want to see

Smell: is his natural body aroma pleasing to your nose … NO cologne … cologne camouflages your instinctive notions of a man to make him more appealing to you

Hearing: listen to & for the words he says and doesn’t say

Taste: spend time with him to experience his personality, however limited or slight … experience the “real” him as much as you can … this is how you get a “taste” of his personality

Feeling: be aware of your physical and emotional sensations and explore your relationship with the guy with nonvictim cautiousness

Mind: YOU do nothing here; your mind processes all the information from your physical sensations … as well as all nonphysical sensations but it needs to be clear … no alcohol or drugs … mind altering substances prevent your mind from properly functioning; mind altering substances cause you to make excuses and accept/perform certain behaviors when you shouldn’t

All too often we as women are under the impression that we are suppose to jump high … go through loops and bounds to have a guy notice you. Remember the man is to court you. You are not to court the man. DO give him a glimpse of how life would be with you in a relationship but don’t give him too much of you without him doing the same.

Definition of courting - (www.dictionary.com)

to try to win the favor, preference, or goodwill of
to seek the affections of

Typically, the man comes after what is most important to him. If a man comes after you solely for sex especially in the beginning of your encounter … then he is not courting you. Believe it or not … a man can wait. If he is really courting you, he would show interest in some of your nonsexual best qualities. While physical attraction is important … it shouldn’t be the sole driving force for a man wanting to be with you.

Ladies, think about it; I am sure you have other good qualities to offer a man than sex.

So in closing ladies, if you feel sexually cheap … you know it feels wrong … you know that it hurts … you notice that you are repeating your self-destructive behavior … and NOW folks see you as sexually cheap. Why don’t you want to comprehend what ALL of your 6 senses are telling you? Do something about it.

You learned all these behaviors that ALLOW YOU to market yourself as sexually cheap … so why not unlearn them and become SENSUALLY EXPENSIVE… not monetarily …. but strengthen your womanly essence … STOP being that woman that lies there after sex still feeling bad. Stop being that woman asking why did I do that … why do I keep being the thrill ride … why do I often end up as that chick on the side.

What is more important to you: your SENSUAL intimacy or SEXUAL intimacy? Learn your womanhood.

Peace,

M&M

You Ain't That Special Blog Article & Show Info

2009-05-12T22:08:00.000-07:00

If only we were born with a set of instructions … a normal sense of survival … not like a clump of clay to be molded … not an impressionable mind that will latch onto beliefs that feed into the ego, the self … just simple things that are whispered into your subconscious. I wish someone would have just told me that I wasn’t that special. Yes, it’s hard to swallow that you are not special; it sounds weird doesn’t it. The reality is that you … me … even rest in peace … the Mother Teresa was no more special than the other woman. Women are conditioned to believe they are princesses … queens … our knight and shining armor is going to protect us. When that’s not reality, we breakdown … we cry … we ask why me … exhibit destructive behavior. I have come to think “why not me.” Why not me if I decide to go against that bit of commonsense that has developed inside of me through living and experiencing the trial and error of life. Why not me when I decided to make illogical decisions. I believed I didn’t deserve everything bad that happened to me but I did deserve it. The sad part is that I want to be special. I want others to see me as special. I don’t understand why the only men that view me as special are already commited. I wonder why the eligible men look at me as a nice thrill ride. So … I still wonder why me … even in light of me understanding "why not me" … why am I always the victim?

Tune in this Sunday @4pm (est) to “Chronicles of a Single Woman” @ www.blogtalkradio.com/chronicles for “You Ain’t That Special” show.

SHOW HIGHLIGHT: In summary, if you keep making the same irrational decisions and choices, why do you feel you are "so special” that you should NOT reap the consequences of these REPEATED irrational decisions and choices … hmm … think about it … cause we sure as heck talked about it!

Spring Cleaning: Vagina Maintenance

2009-04-07T11:00:00.000-07:00

Ladies you need to do more than clean your closet this spring or get that new outfit!

I personally have smelled other women’s vaginas after entering a bathroom stall … yuck very disgusting. I have also heard stories of what men have encountered; all I can say is wowwwwwwww (shout out to Caribgem @ W.O.W. Radio)

Ladies have you ever been in a situation where you were about to get it on with a dude, and then he all of a sudden changes his mind? Or for some reason he just doesn’t call you back and everything seemed good during your hot make-out session?

Tune in Sunday, April 19th to Chronicles of a Single Woman Radio Show @ www.blogtalkradio.com/chronicles for the “Vagina Maintenance” discussion.

While you are here, Ladies take the “VAGINA MAINTENANCE” survey. Fellas there’s a survey here for you too, the “WHAT TYPE OF VAGINA HAVE YOU ENCOUNTERED” survey!

LADIES & FELLAS :: Email stories of your stinky vagina encounters to mariposa.mukti@gmail.कॉम

SHOW SUMMARY - Vagina Maintenance

Women need to be concerned about taking care of what makes them women … their vagina … and need to stop letting folks just use their vagina without caring for it. Majority of the feminine products on the market including prescribed drugs cause an increase of susceptibility to many vaginal issues/infections/conditions: yeast infections; bacterial infections; viral infections. All women at sometime in their lives experience a vaginal issue … regardless if they are a virgin or not। The culprits are ourselves … the foods we ingest … the feminine products we use … who we have sex with… and much more। Vaginal Maintenance show was cohosted by Enoch (Doctor of Naturopathy)।Click here to view his list of services and price list. Enoch discussed from a holistic point-of-view the many causes of vaginal discomfort and issues … including how women primarily only worry about how their outfit, shoes, hair, car, etc looks. We took a deep look at a problem that in the end often causes detrimental conditions in women.